Discussing Pornography with Your Future Son-in-Law
August 12, 2011 By Leave a Comment
Discussing Pornography with Your Future Son-in-Law
By Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Director, LifeSTAR of St. George, UT
I clearly remember the lunch appointment with my future father-in-law to ask for his daughter’s hand in marriage. I was a bundle of nerves, but I loved his daughter more than I was afraid to talk with him. I had no idea what questions he might have in store for me. As the lunch progressed, our small talk turned into serious talk as he asked me questions about my family, my thoughts on parenting, and how I planned to support my future family.
I had only met him one previous time when I ate dinner at their house. However, I felt his love and protection for his daughter and wanted to do everything I could to win his confidence and trust. Thankfully, he gave me his full blessing and asked me only one favor: “will you please stop by her mother’s house on your way home and show her the engagement ring?” I obliged his request and spent some time with her mother before going to propose to my wife. [Read more...]
Pornography – Satan’s Counterfeit
August 2, 2011 By Leave a Comment
Brad Wilcox, a professor at BYU provides a wonderful talk about Pornography. It is directed to Youth, Parent’s, and Leaders. This is a wonderful talk, and resource that will help you understand the nature of this “enemy of our souls”. No one is immune for the impact of Pornography. Every family will be impacted in some way or another.
Brad Wilcox, Ph.D
Brad Wilcox grew up in Provo, Utah, except for childhood years spent in Ethiopia, Africa. As a young man, he served a mission for the Church in Chile. Brad earned a Ph.D. from the University of Wyoming and is now an associate professor in the department of Teacher Education at BYU. Brad and his wife, Debi, lived at one time in New Zealand, where Brad directed a Study Abroad program for Brigham Young University. They recently lived in Santiago, Chile, where Brad served as president of the Chile Santiago East Mission from 2003-2006; he currently serves as a member of the Sunday School general board. Brad and Debi are the parents of four children and reside in Provo, Utah.
Visit SA Lifeline Foundation to find help, education, and resources for those suffereing from the effects of Pornography.
Rhyll Croshaw on KSL Studio 5 speaking about Healing
October 26, 2010 By Leave a Comment
Healing from a spouse’s pornography problem
Aired on Studio 5 on Oct. 25, 2010
In the documentary “Out in the Light” Steve and Rhyll Crowshaw share their story of how Steve’s pornography addiction impacted their marriage for more than 30 years. Through it all, Rhyll has found personal peace and healing and shares what she has learned through her experience.
Rhyll’s tips for finding hope and healing:
- Seek information. Rhyll says, “Education about the addiction helped soften the feeling that I had been personally attacked and was one of the steps to refining my hope.”
- Take care of yourself. Rhyll says, “I needed healing … not because I was weak but because I had been hurt.” Rhyll recommends taking time to slow down your emotions.
- Find support and safety through: A 12-step group and sponsor; qualified counseling; a strong spiritual connection; boundaries – refusing to enable addict behaviors such as lying, victim attitude, blaming, and resentment.
- Recognizing you have a choice in how you feel and how you approach the challenge. Rhyll says, “If I live in the past, I live with resentment. If I live in the future, I live with fear which paralyzes me. I started to learn to live in the present and be grateful for the present moment.”
For more information visit Rhyll and Steve Crowshaw’s foundation at www.salifeline.org, and to view the “Out in the Light” documentary, visit www.outinthelight.com.
Can pornography use become an actual brain addiction?
September 21, 2010 By 6 Comments
Donald L. Hilton, Jr. MD, FACS
Clinical Associate Professor
Department of Neurosurgery
University of Texas Health Sciences Center at San Antonio
The human brain is programmed to incentivize behaviors that contribute to survival. The mesolimbic dopaminergic system rewards eating and sexuality with powerful pleasure incentives. Cocaine, opioids, alcohol, and other drugs subvert, or hijack, these pleasure systems, and cause the brain to think a drug high is necessary to survive. Evidence is now strong that natural rewards such as food and sex affect the reward systems in the same way drugs affect them, thus the current interest in ‘natural addiction.’ Addiction, whether to cocaine, food, or sex occurs when these activities cease to contribute to a state of homeostasis, and instead cause adverse consequences. For instance, when eating causes morbid obesity few will argue that the organism is in healthy balance. Similarly, pornography causes harm when it impairs or destroys a person’s ability to develop emotional intimacy. [Read more...]
Porn is a drug!
June 14, 2010 By 5 Comments
SALVO Porn is a Drug
SLAVE MASTER
How Pornography Drugs & Changes Your Brain
by Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD
While some have avoided using the term “addiction” in the context of natural compulsions such as uncontrolled sexuality, overeating, or gambling, let us consider current scientific evidence regarding the brain and addiction.
This article will seek to answer two questions: (1) Biologically, is the brain affected by pornography and other sexual addictions? (2) If so, and if such addictions are widespread, can they have a societal effect as well?
The Story of the Gypsy Moth
Let’s begin with a seeming digression. In 1869 the gypsy moth was brought to America to attempt to jumpstart a silk industry. Rarely have good intentions gone so wrong, as the unforeseen appetite of the moth for deciduous trees such as oaks, maples, and elms has devastated forests for 150 years. [Read more...]
Pornography Facts: What’s the big deal?
June 9, 2010 By 2 Comments
Pornography use is at an all time high. Check out some of these troubling stats on Pornography Addiction!
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The Weight of Smut
May 17, 2010 By Leave a Comment
by Mary Eberstadt
This article in its original format can be found at here. We have reposted it on our site, because we find it to be extremely valuable.
As the impressively depressing cover story “America the Obese” in the May issue of The Atlantic serves to remind us all, the weight-gain epidemic in the United States and the rest of the West is indeed widespread, deleterious, and unhealthy—which is why it is so frequently remarked on, and an object of such universal public concern. But while we’re on the subject of bad habits that can turn unwitting kids into unhappy adults, how about that other epidemic out there that is far more likely to make their future lives miserable than carrying those extra pounds ever will? That would be the emerging social phenomenon of what can appropriately be called “sexual obesity”: the widespread gorging on pornographic imagery that is also deleterious and unhealthy, though far less remarked on than that other epidemic—and nowhere near an object of universal public concern. That complacency may now be changing. [Read more...]
A Road Map for Recovery Leaving Pornography Addiction and Discovering Life
April 30, 2010 By 2 Comments
by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT
Director, LifeSTAR of St. George, Utah
“This will be the last time”
“It wasn’t as bad as other stuff I’ve seen”
“It’s not like I look at it everyday”
These self-reassuring statements are a small sampling of comments I hear from men who struggle with viewing pornography. They wonder if they are really addicted. Many of them hide in secrecy for years trying to resolve the unwanted behaviors on their own. The secret struggle often creates more hopelessness and feelings of powerlessness over this mysterious force that seems to keep sabotaging their best efforts.
In their pain and frustration, many of them ask me the following questions:
How can I tell if I am really addicted to pornography? [Read more...]
S.A. Lifeline Foundation Offers New and Improved Website for Those with Pornography Addictions
April 20, 2010 By Leave a Comment
For the victims and families of those suffering from pornography addictions, S.A. Lifeline Foundation has launched a brand new website that offers assistance and hope for recovery.
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Lehi, UT (Vocus/PRWEB ) April 18, 2010 — As pornography becomes increasingly accessible through the Internet, the epidemic of porn addiction is on a steady rise. Knowing this, Utah based S.A. Lifeline Foundation has just launched their redesigned website in an effort to provide a new and improved platform for delivering the message of hope that recovery from pornography addiction is possible.
“This new website is a dramatic step in the effort of S.A. Lifeline Foundation to provide education and information to those afflicted, associated, or addicted to pornography,” said Steven Croshaw of S.A. Lifeline Foundation.
Though the old website was a powerful vehicle for assisting victims and their families, this new website has widely expanded its content offering, improved its graphic interface, added additional support products and videos, expanded the shopping cart and boasts a number of other added features that elevate the already stellar services. [Read more...]