Donald L. Hilton Jr., MD author of “He Restoreth my Soul” speaks to a wide audience on the impacts of Pornography on the Brain. Dr. Hilton is a leading neurosurgeon, and uses his practical knowledge to explain why Pornography is so addicting. This video has been published by SA Lifeline Foundation.
Donald L. Hilton speaks to Youth and Parents about Pornography.
September 8, 2010 By 5 Comments
My husband and I divorced after years of struggles with his addictions. He just couldn’t let go of the secrecy and deceptions. In April, it will be two years since we separated, in March, it will be one year since our divorce was final. It’s really only been in the last six months that I’ve been able to examine the emotional wounds and begin to heal.
I would like to see articles on how to help my children reconcile their love for their dad with the feelings of disappointment and betrayal. Is this addressed in “He Restoreth My Soul? My daughter is seventeen, and my son is almost twelve. Since the divorce, my daughter has accidentally walked in on her dad using pornography. I am so sad for my kids, and for their dad. GLAD we are not together anymore, sad for the lost dreams.
Jeanette
Jeanette I went through a similar experience with you. I have two little girls so they are still young with all that happened but I would love to share what we have done. As we heal it gives opportunity for our children to heal. Im sure you have found with those scars comes an understanding of who you are and what needs were not met. Those same needs will be in our children and they will also need to be met. So much love!
There is so much focus on the person with the addiction, that often the other family members are over looked- and even worse- expected to just get over it. That’s not how wounds heal. Stephen Covey says that feelings buried alive never die- they always resurface in uglier ways.
There are some resources to help wives heal from the pain they experience in this process at http://www.curethecraving.com
The time has come for people to speak more openly about this and support each other. Its such a common challenge, and so many have gone through it. Women shouldn’t have to suffer in silence or be expected to heal without any help along the way.
You cannot kill a dream, dreams are inevitable…the Problem that you have with your husband it is not against your husband it is against and enemy you cannot see.. your family had a dream when it started and that dream is still attainable, but you have to believe it ..do you still love your Husband..think about it. God never starts anything that He can’t finish. Jean don’t give up on your Family..that husband wife and children..forgive and it shall be forgiven. It is a spirit that your Husband is dealing with. He needs strong support.
WOW! i attended a fireside in Salt Lake Valley for the ARP when you spoke. I am also attending classes for Psycology with an emphisis in addiction and recovery. I also was a victum of porn abuse when i was a child, and had frontal lobe trama to the brain. I don’t have an addiction to substance, my drug of choice is co-dependency and attention. i want to use your resaearch in my studies because i believe in it totally. Thanks for your work and testimony of the help we can get from the Lord.