In order to start on the road to recovery and wholeness after consistently viewing pornography, it is necessary to come out of hiding. Individuals who are involved in viewing pornography must be willing to acknowledge that they have a problem and that it cannot be dealt with in secrete on their own.
For the spouse of someone viewing pornography, recognize it is natural to feel betrayed. Trust has been broken. Support and wholeness are possible if you are willing to take the steps necessary to obtain your own recovery.
Couples must commit to individual recovery as they seek to recover their marriage relationship.
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Your article was awesome; it hit exactly what people to need to hear. Thank you, SA Lifeline! You made my life.
Thank you so much for your efforts in this area. I discovered my husband’s “problem” three years ago and I felt I had no resources. As a result, I just turned inward and did not know what to do. This is still a “problem” for our marriage. But, now I have inforation that will help me on my recovery journey.
I feel that it is great to hear what happens through recovery and how a sPouse feels when the addiction occurs, but what about those who don’t want recovery because they love their addiction or they are denying a problem. I dealt with his addiction for 15 years and now have a divorce pending because he won’t admit to his problem. The consequences to his addiction are unbelievable. Physical abuse , blaming his wife affairs both on the Internet , match. Com, and now acting out on one of his seven daughters. I have been in a 12 step group almost every day for codependents and it has really helped me but I am tired of being the scapegoat and the blame by him for his actions. That is how I know he is not in recovery. I have had a protective order for more than 2 years and he can’t even support his family. His addiction is also a cycle of depression addiction depression addiction . I think that I needed to see how sick he was getting and I always thought it was just depression . Our family is in shambles and it’s like the aftermath of a bombing. His addiction has destroyed him and had such an imPact on our family. I think these addicts need to see the consequences of not facing the addictions. Laura