Comments on: How Pornography Affects Women http://salifeline.org Fighting pornography through education about addiction and support for recovery. Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:18:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Ruth http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Ruth Thu, 18 Mar 2010 22:52:53 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-33 I have been married for 35 years and I am the mother of 6 children. My 4 daughters were the ones to discover the pronography on my husbands computer over two years ago. I have two teen sons who I just discovered have been involved in Porn also, though I don't yet know to what extent. Since that time my husband has acted out the roll of a repentant man, all the while continuing with his addiction...just hiding it better. Now after the third time of going through the experience of catching my husband, I don't know where to turn and I have realized, painfully that I have NO IDEA what I'm dealing with in regards to this addiction! I appreciate this article most of all because it talks to me, the woman. I need to educate myself about addiction, which I should have done long ago, but I also need someone to tell me that I can nurture and support myself in a world where women only live to care for others. I don't want to be emotionally broken...I intend to be stronger in the face of this. I need all the information and help I can get. Thank you! I have been married for 35 years and I am the mother of 6 children. My 4 daughters were the ones to discover the pronography on my husbands computer over two years ago. I have two teen sons who I just discovered have been involved in Porn also, though I don’t yet know to what extent. Since that time my husband has acted out the roll of a repentant man, all the while continuing with his addiction…just hiding it better. Now after the third time of going through the experience of catching my husband, I don’t know where to turn and I have realized, painfully that I have NO IDEA what I’m dealing with in regards to this addiction! I appreciate this article most of all because it talks to me, the woman. I need to educate myself about addiction, which I should have done long ago, but I also need someone to tell me that I can nurture and support myself in a world where women only live to care for others. I don’t want to be emotionally broken…I intend to be stronger in the face of this. I need all the information and help I can get. Thank you!

]]> By: James http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-32 James Wed, 09 Sep 2009 13:39:49 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-32 To Cyrik: I respectfully disagree with your 'failing grade'. As an addict myself, I can look back and see the effect that pornography has had on my life and on my family. Nearly all the changes listed in this article, I have experienced. I don't mind the fact that no references are sited. I don't think the author needs any. My spouse attended one S-Anon meeting after multiple requests from me. She had a very hard time... I am not sure if she will go back or not. I am grateful for this article. I can help her complete 2 of the 4 things listed above at our home with me by her side. I can only hope that in time she will be able to utilize the other two as well. Respectfully. To Cyrik:

I respectfully disagree with your ‘failing grade’. As an addict myself, I can look back and see the effect that pornography has had on my life and on my family. Nearly all the changes listed in this article, I have experienced. I don’t mind the fact that no references are sited. I don’t think the author needs any.

My spouse attended one S-Anon meeting after multiple requests from me. She had a very hard time… I am not sure if she will go back or not. I am grateful for this article. I can help her complete 2 of the 4 things listed above at our home with me by her side. I can only hope that in time she will be able to utilize the other two as well.

Respectfully.

]]> By: CrisBetewsky http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-31 CrisBetewsky Mon, 06 Jul 2009 19:16:22 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-31 Some of us even don't realize the importance of this information. What a pity. Some of us even don’t realize the importance of this information. What a pity.

]]> By: Judi http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-30 Judi Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:41:00 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-30 to Pam: I have been married for 37 years and realized 6 years ago that my husband has been addicted to pornography for most of his life. He was the one who took me kicking and screaming to SA / S-Anon. It was very difficult at first but once I began to accept the fact that my husband was a "sick person not a bad person" (S-Anon green book) I began to find peace now I attend S-Anon meetings every week and I have come to love this fellowship. I love these women who are hurting and healing. I highly recoment S-Anon to anyone finds themselves in a relationship with a sex addict, I believe the 12 steps and fellowships are from God, a place to connect HONESTLY with others who so desperatly need God and each other. to Pam: I have been married for 37 years and realized 6 years ago that my husband has been addicted to pornography for most of his life. He was the one who took me kicking and screaming to SA / S-Anon. It was very difficult at first but once I began to accept the fact that my husband was a “sick person not a bad person” (S-Anon green book) I began to find peace now I attend S-Anon meetings every week and I have come to love this fellowship. I love these women who are hurting and healing. I highly recoment S-Anon to anyone finds themselves in a relationship with a sex addict, I believe the 12 steps and fellowships are from God, a place to connect HONESTLY with others who so desperatly need God and each other.

]]> By: Cyrik http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-29 Cyrik Fri, 12 Jun 2009 09:34:12 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-29 I'm not disputing it's contents, but I would like to point out this articles utter lack of independent study, references or supporting evidence. Any student in high school, college or university that turned in a paper like this lacking those three things would get a failing grade, no question. For those reasons, sadly, this article fails. I’m not disputing it’s contents, but I would like to point out this articles utter lack of independent study, references or supporting evidence. Any student in high school, college or university that turned in a paper like this lacking those three things would get a failing grade, no question.

For those reasons, sadly, this article fails.

]]> By: Pam http://salifeline.org/help-a-loved-one/recovery-for-spouses/how-pornography-affects-women-and-what-they-can-do/comment-page-1/#comment-28 Pam Sun, 07 Jun 2009 22:27:24 +0000 http://www.salifeline.org/?p=40#comment-28 I was married for 30 years had 5 children. I was divorced 3 years ago and just found out that my husband had been addicted to pornography for the last 15 years of our marriage and still is today. 4 out of my 5 children are all addicted also. Would S-Anon be helpful for me to attend? I was married for 30 years had 5 children. I was divorced 3 years ago and just found out that my husband had been addicted to pornography for the last 15 years of our marriage and still is today. 4 out of my 5 children are all addicted also. Would S-Anon be helpful for me to attend?

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