The Clarion

In Donald L. Hilton’s book He Restoreth my Soul, he shares the thoughts of one man in recovery. This young man writes about how good music helped him continue firmly on the path to recovery. He writes, “I have found good music to be very helpful in fulfilling some of my spiritual needs. Good music means music that helps me to feel the Spirit instead of music that pounds my spirit numb. I used to use music to numb myself in the same way I can use pornography or substances to numb myself. Good music has become a way to re-sensitize myself and help me to be more sensitive to the Spirit’s gentle promptings.”

The right music can be a part of ones self-care and can be a therapeutic part of one’s recovery.  Likewise, as this young man has stated, the wrong sort of music can be triggering, numbing, or an integral part of one’s addiction. We encourage people all to be mindful of the kind of music and Spirit they bring into their lives.

During 2012, SA Lifeline Foundation has worked hard to better fulfill our mission: Providing hope, education, and resources related to pornography and sexual addiction. Here is a quick montage of some of our progress in 2012.

Rhyll’s book What Can I Do About Me? Healing from the Trauma of My Husband’s Pornography and Sexual Addiction was written and published.

The website was updated and an Espanol tab has been included on the site.

He Restoreth my Soul was made available on Kindle, Ipad, and other personal readers on Amazon.com.

The Youtube Channel was been updated, and all of the S.A. Lifeline DVDs are now available for free online.

RhyllRecovery.com was developed to aid families and spouses of those with sexual addictions to heal.

The Foundation has been working on integrating outreach efforts by meeting with clinicians and agencies around the state and working towards the development and enhancement of social media use for the Foundation.

S.A. Marriage & Family Recovery, a sister organization focusing on healing marriage’s and families, was founded and has held several educational retreats and community education during the latter part of this year.

Approximately 4,500 printed copies of He Restoreth my Soul, 3,000 printed copies of the Understanding Pornography Manuel, and 100 Kindle Edition copies of He Restoreth My Soul were disseminated in 2012.

S.A. Lifeline continues to support 12-step groups by providing space, this includes the new addition of a young men’s 12-step group (age 15-22).

There is Hope, a beautiful tribute video to those who have donated to S.A. Lifeline and a call for others to join in this effort, is now available on the SA Lifeline homepage.

Rhyllrecovery.com, a sister site to S.A. Lifeline, has been fully developed to help promote principles of recovery for the spouses’ and family of those who struggle with pornography and sexual addiction. New videos and articles will be posted consistently on this site.In one such video, titled “Forgiveness vs Trust,” Rhyll invites us to join her as she offers hope and recovery to women affected by their husband’s pornography and sexual addiction.“Forgiveness and trust are two very different things in my mind, but both play critical roles in my recovery. Forgiveness is a gift from God that has enabled me to overcome betrayal and live my life with peace. It is through the gift of forgiveness that I find myself being full of love and compassion toward my husband, instead of bitterness. Trust on the other hand is something that has to be earned. Through my journey I have learned that I do not have to say to my husband, “I forgive you and trust you at the same time.”  In fact, I believe that trust given too quickly can harm a relationship.I know that I do myself and my husband a disfavor by immediately trusting him. Regaining trust takes time, effort, and a lot of going to God for answers.But how does someone gain confidence and trust in someone who has betrayed them? I trust my husband when I see trustworthy behavior. To me trustworthy behavior is honesty; it is not lying or hiding. It is accountability, kindness, patience, and consideration for my feelings. Untrustworthy behavior looks like detachment, blaming, anger, or a feeling that something is not right. I’ve learned to look for trustworthy behavior instead of asking my husband if he is being honest with me. I ask myself, “what does trustworthy behavior look and feel like?” and then I trust my gut. Of course more important than trusting my gut is trusting in God to give me answers as to what is really going on.” –Rhyll Croshaw

To watch the video in full click here.