UPDATE: UCAP 2020 HAS BEEN POSTPONED DUE TO THE COVID-19 OUTBREAK. WATCH FOR MORE INFORMATION TO COME.
At S.A.Lifeline, we are constantly working to find more effective ways to carry the message of hope for recovery to a wider audience.
One of the ways we do this is by carrying a significant presence at UCAP, the world’s largest Conference dedicated to educating the public on the harmful effects of pornography. S.A.Lifeline has long been a fixture in this Coalition Against Pornography, carrying the voice of hope for recovery amidst the cacophony of voices you will find in the Resource Booths there. There are literally dozens of tables touting programs, tools, books, and philosophies regarding resources for addicts, spouses, children, parents, ecclesiastical leaders, and concerned citizens.
UCAP attracts some of the world’s leading experts in the field of sexual addiction and betrayal trauma and represents an amazing wealth of information from a variety of perspectives, from parenting, to prevention, to recovering a marriage, to personal healing, to societal change. Click here to see the full schedule for UCAP 2020.
I am personally grateful to Bev, an SAL member who volunteered to work her 12th step by writing this article about the upcoming UCAP Conference. We are grateful for her insights and perspective, and hope that her thoughts will inspire you to attend UCAP on March 28th. It may just change your life.
I’m fairly new in the recovery world, but the more I learn, the better I understand. If you compare it to learning the alphabet as a child, you first learn how to sing the ABC’s, and then you learn that there is a written letter associated with each verbal letter you say. You learn that the letters make sounds, the sounds make words, words make sentences, etc. You get the idea.
In the same way your world opened up as knowledge was gained, and the ability to communicate continued to expand with the alphabet, the same goes for understanding addiction, betrayal trauma, and how it affects families and communities. The more knowledge gained, the greater capacity for being able to live in recovery for the addicted, as well as the betrayed, and then trickles down into families and communities.
If you don’t fit in either category of the addicted or the betrayed, you are still needed at UCAP. The more knowledge our communities gain through conferences like UCAP, the greater the capacity to be able to help those in need.
This year UCAP will be held on Saturday March 28th, 2020 from 9am to 4:30pm. There is a place for everyone, with excellent presenters like Sharon Eubank, and Collin Kartchner, and many more. S.A.Lifeline will be represented in 2 presentations titled “Understanding Boundaries through the Lens of Self-Compassion” by Rhyll Croshaw and Becky Moller, and “How to Re-build Trust After the Trauma of Disclosure” by Steven Croshaw and Nate Moller. You can register for the Conference here.
I have spent a lot of time in a place of “my husband needs to FIX his problem, and we can get back to the way things were again.” I didn’t realize I would need to accept the reality that it meant a lifestyle change for us, and our family. This wasn’t a broken leg that could be casted, and in 6-8 weeks be completely healed. If every hardship in life could be casted, and solved in 6-8 weeks I think most of us would line up to get all the trials done at the same time…we’d be living the rest of our lives happily ever after!
Alas, that isn’t the case. We needed to do a 180 in how we lived our lives. There is no going back to the way things were. That may sound depressing, but it actually is freeing. When you truly implement a lifestyle change you don’t want to go back, because you know what going back means.
Five years ago if anyone would have said that in 2020 I’d be writing a blog about UCAP, I would have said “What is UCAP?” I really don’t recall knowing about UCAP…if I did, I dismissed it. Why? Because I believed pornography and other issues we had were over with. I thought we had beat it! There is so much more to it than what I realized in this journey. We need each other, we need the strength from one another and no matter where you are in your journey of life, there is only one way to find out if UCAP is worth going to…You have to go to find out. I’ll see you there!
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