The importance of spiritual connection in recovery from sexual addiction and betrayal
trauma cannot be overstated.
At SA Lifeline, we understand that recovery is, at its heart, a spiritual process.
We have found that the spiritual connection that we lack in our deepest pain is most
effectively gained through actively working the 12 Steps with the guidance and support
of a sponsor.
While other spiritual practices and guidance from an ecclesiastical leader may be
helpful, it is working the 12 Steps that uncovers the spirituals walls we have built up in
our lives of addiction or trauma.
12 Step work is a lifelong pursuit that can continue to peel back the layers of our
ego and resistance.
We admitted that we were powerless over lust – that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
The spiritual process that occurs through 12 Step Work is grounded in the principles of
surrender, found in the Serenity Prayer.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time,
Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace.
Taking as He did this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would have it,
Trusting that He will make all things right,
If I surrender to His will,
That I may be reasonably happy in this life,
And supremely happy with Him forever in the next.
Thy will, Not mine be done.
Boundaries and Bottom Lines are crucial in sexual addiction recovery for the addict as well as the betrayed partner.
Addicts need to set bottom lines around how they spend their time, who they talk to, media usage, how they manage difficult emotions, and many other things.
Partners of addicts need to set boundaries around behaviors that lead them to lose their serenity and send them into chaos and trauma. Boundaries should always be attached to an outcome…If, then.
Boundaries will be ineffective unless they are consistently enforced.
Living within appropriate boundaries is a practice for long-term recovery.