Ultimately, recovery and healing for anyone is spiritual.
A loving, educated, spiritual leader can validate our feelings, hold our spouses accountable, and help to give us much needed direction. If our spiritual leader is not educated on this subject, we must not be afraid to take the information, books, etc., that we have read ourselves and share these with our leader.
As we do our part to find spiritual direction, comfort, and love in our lives and hopefully find in our spiritual leader the empathy and compassion that we desperately need at this time, we will little by little regain our spiritual strength and confidence.