This Christmas season, I have been reflecting on Light. Light is the best part of holiday decorating, in my opinion. Every morning the first thing I do is pad around in my bare feet plugging in extension cords, and all day long I keep my houselights off and let the warm glow of twinkle lights…
Once a month on our blog, we feature Q&A’s with Rhyll Croshaw. Today’s content is brand new and exclusive to this discussion board. Thanks to Rhyll for her insights and willingness to share her strength, hope, and experience with all of us. Please let us know if you have more questions for her by emailing…
Living in recovery from sexual addiction. Just that phase can sound pretty vulnerable in addition to something many people probably don’t want to talk about, read about, or even deal with. Today’s post is a list of suggestions that comes directly from one addicts experience. You can read about it more on page 33 of…
“Take care of yourself.” We say it to those we love, but do we say it to ourselves? And if we do, are we taking the true meaning of those words to heart? When I tell my husband to take care of himself before he goes out on a shift as a drug detective in…
You may be aware that SA Lifeline Foundation recently published the updated Understanding Pornography & Betrayal Trauma Manual. This publication is one of SA Lifeline’s proudest accomplishments. The manual includes clear guidance from top experts in the field, and straight-forward explanations that bring clarity to complicated issues. It is also unique in that it offers…
Do people who look at pornography, even if it’s from time to time, really have a problem or even “a sexual addiction?” Is “lust addiction” a terrible, shaming label or is it something that needs to be talked about openly and honestly? What are your thoughts on these questions? Do you feel there’s a fear…
It’s the week of Thanksgiving. The holiday season is almost in full swing, the time of year that we are supposed to be filled with love and laughter and gratitude. But sometimes, when we are in the middle of trauma, or even in years to follow when special dates and seasons have been tainted from…
Once a month on our blog, we feature Q&A’s with Rhyll Croshaw. Thanks to Rhyll for her insights and willingness to share her strength, hope, and experience with all of us. Q: How did your family react to your disclosures? My husband and I have been in recovery quite a long time, but our children and…
The past few weeks I have been reflecting on Step One. “We admitted we were powerless over sexual addiction–that our lives had become unmanageable.” This one-liner seems pretty simple and pretty clear. Admit our powerlessness? Easy enough, right? But actually feeling and facing the unmanageability of our lives is anything but simple or clear. In…
Thanks for all the questions that have come up about recovery and healing from sexual addiction. From physical touching boundaries to whether or not the 12 steps work, the questions have been so helpful and created a real conversation. Keep them coming! Today’s question comes from a brother who participates in the men’s online meetings.…