Brené Brown defines connection as “the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” Does anything like that exist in the life of a sexaholic? This post won’t be long, it may not…
Last week we discussed a frequently asked question in addiction recovery groups: Am I an addict for the rest of my life? It was an interesting discussion and one that caused me to think a lot about my own recovery and what I’m doing (or need to do) in order to be “in recovery” as…
Recently I was talking with a friend in recovery that goes to SAL meetings and another group support meeting. He mentioned that someone in his other group told the entire group that they really shouldn’t label themselves as addicts and that it’s hurtful to their recovery. My friend and I had this conversation a few…
This question has been on my mind a lot lately – “Why don’t I work the Steps?” Is working the Steps really that difficult? Does it take too much of my “precious” time? If my life were dependent on whether or not I worked the Steps of Recovery, would I work them? It’s easy to…
What does the “power of surrender” mean? Why is surrender an essential part of the addiction recovery process? Or is it? Most of us have heard of the concept of surrender as we’re going to meetings and trying to work the steps of recovery from addiction. But have you ever had this question: “What does surrender really mean?” Or…
Recovery vs. Sobriety The question proposed is one I’ve thought about quite a bit; what I’m going to share is based on my own experience. To share my feelings about the question, I’ll start with a few questions: Why does the White Book say, “Without sobriety we have nothing to offer anyone.” (p. 185) What does…
Today’s men’s discussion is based on a question received from a sponsor regarding his sponsee. He wondered, “How do I help a sponsee who’s struggling?” If you have questions that you’d like to discuss, please submit them here. Thanks for all your interaction in the men’s SAL group discussion. How to Help a Sponsee Who’s…
This question has come up quite a bit, both for me personally as an addict working my own recovery, through the contact form here at SALifeline.org, and in meetings I’ve been a part of. “How do I safely share triggers with my wife or significant other?” Have you ever had this question? What’s the “right…
What is the opposite of addiction? How did I become addicted to pornography and all the other crap that comes with it? Why have I struggled for nearly my entire life to truly connect with other people and feel safe? Have you ever ask yourself these questions? They’re important questions for me to ask myself. The…
Today we’re going to discuss a difficult question: How to Work with Family Members Who Aren’t in Recovery or Sobriety. I feel this question could be answered in a couple ways, depending on what is meant by a “family member who isn’t in recovery or sobriety.” For me, I don’t know that I have direct…