What is the opposite of addiction?
How did I become addicted to pornography and all the other crap that comes with it?
Why have I struggled for nearly my entire life to truly connect with other people and feel safe?
Have you ever ask yourself these questions?
They’re important questions for me to ask myself.
The video below is titled: “Everything you think you know about addiction is wrong | Johann Hari.”
It’s a TED talk and I feel like it’s SO APPLICABLE to my life as an addict.
The talk isn’t specifically about pornography addiction, but as you watch it (I turned off suggested videos at the end so just watch it here on the site if you’re worried about Youtube), think about how you relate to what he’s sharing.
Highlights from the Ted Talk
Almost everything we think we know about addiction is wrong.
What we think we know about addiction:
– Your body becomes dependent on your drug of choice
– If your grandma had a hip replacement, she didn’t become a junky on heroin (even though the doctors gave her the purest form of that drug to treat her) – why didn’t she?
The Rat Park Concept: (see 4:25)
Isolation vs. Happy and Connected Lives
Addiction is an adaptation to your environment.
Addiction could be the lack of true bonding with others.
A core part of addiction is about not being able to bear to be present in your life.
“We live in a culture where people feel really increasingly vulnerable to all sorts of addictions: their smart phones, shopping, eating…”
Disconnection is a major driver of addiction.
The connections we think we have are parody of human connection.
If you have a crisis in your life…Your Twitter followers won’t help you; Your Facebook friends won’t reach out to help you turn things around.
How many close friends can you call on if you’re in a crisis?
In our world today, we’re trading floor space for friends.
In our world today, we’re trading stuff for connections.
We are one of the loneliest societies there’s ever been.
“I love you whether you’re using or not…if you need me, I’ll come sit with you. You’re not alone – we love you.”
The opposite of addiction is not sobriety.
The opposite of addiction is CONNECTION!
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I’m grateful for the comments that are shared after a discussion topic. To me, this is part of the community and connection I’ve been lacking for most of my life.
Please share your experience, strength, and hope so we can all learn and grow together.