What does the “power of surrender” mean? Why is surrender an essential part of the addiction recovery process? Or is it? Most of us have heard of the concept of surrender as we’re going to meetings and trying to work the steps of recovery from addiction. But have you ever had this question: “What does surrender really mean?” Or…
Recovery vs. Sobriety The question proposed is one I’ve thought about quite a bit; what I’m going to share is based on my own experience. To share my feelings about the question, I’ll start with a few questions: Why does the White Book say, “Without sobriety we have nothing to offer anyone.” (p. 185) What does…
Today’s men’s discussion is based on a question received from a sponsor regarding his sponsee. He wondered, “How do I help a sponsee who’s struggling?” If you have questions that you’d like to discuss, please submit them here. Thanks for all your interaction in the men’s SAL group discussion. How to Help a Sponsee Who’s…
This question has come up quite a bit, both for me personally as an addict working my own recovery, through the contact form here at SALifeline.org, and in meetings I’ve been a part of. “How do I safely share triggers with my wife or significant other?” Have you ever had this question? What’s the “right…
What is the opposite of addiction? How did I become addicted to pornography and all the other crap that comes with it? Why have I struggled for nearly my entire life to truly connect with other people and feel safe? Have you ever ask yourself these questions? They’re important questions for me to ask myself. The…
Today we’re going to discuss a difficult question: How to Work with Family Members Who Aren’t in Recovery or Sobriety. I feel this question could be answered in a couple ways, depending on what is meant by a “family member who isn’t in recovery or sobriety.” For me, I don’t know that I have direct…
“What is progressive victory over lust?” “Why do I need this for true recovery from sexual addiction?” “‘Progressive victory over lust…’ – is that even possible?” These are questions that came to my mind when I first heard the phrase “progressive victory over lust.” How would you answer these questions today? Do you believe the statement…
A few weeks ago, I heard a speech about the difference between knowledge and wisdom – something I’ve never thought about before. That speech, in conjunction with a forest analogy my wife heard on YouTube by Eckhart Tolle, made me think about a trip I took to the Redwoods in Northern California a few months earlier.…
Why do you think that it takes an addict to help an addict? Or do you? Can a parent help a son who struggles with pornography addiction? Can an ecclesiastical leader share with the addict a “plan of attack” that will get them clean and sober? What about the spouse of an addict – can…
Why do women have bookclubs? Do they really even read the book or is it just a reason they create to get together and talk, gossip, or possibly emotionally connect? Personally, I’ve been kind of jealous when my wife goes to bookclubs. It seems to me to be a great way to meet new friends…