This week, we’d like to share a post from the Men’s Discussion Board that has received multiple comments and inspired some great discussion:

For me and my marriage, I feel like after 3 and a half years of recovery, I am just barely getting to a place where I can really start at Step 1 with this issue.

For the first year after disclosure, I know now that I used sex as a way to “manipulate or control the addict” as our script suggests, as well as a way to numb and escape from the intense emotional pain I was experiencing almost all of the time.  I can say that, just like my addict, I was using sex as my “drug of choice.”

Today, I am in a much healthier place, but still not in a place I would exactly call “healthy.”

This is a long road with unexpected twists and turns.

We’d love to hear your insight in the discussion.

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