Once a month on our blog, we will be featuring Q&A’s with Rhyll Croshaw. This content was originally found on our sister site, rhyllrecovery.com, but will now be a part of our Women’s Discussion here.
Thanks to Rhyll for her insights and willingness to share her strength, hope, and experience with all of us. Please let us know if you have more questions for her.
Q: What does detaching with love feel like?
A: To answer this question, I’d like to paraphrase something I found that clearly represents what detaching with love truly feels like.
When do we detach? When we are hooked into a reaction of fear, rage ,or shame. When the way we’re reacting is hurting us.
The first step toward detaching is understanding that reacting and controlling don’t help. The next step is to get peaceful. Take a walk, leave the room, take a long hot bath, call a friend (sponsor), breathe deeply, call on God. Surrender. (Melody Beattie)
Remember and do the surrender process….on my knees, on the phone, in the box. We may need to detach multiple times a day.
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