The 12 Triggers of Christmas
With the stress of the holidays in full swing, we thought it would be appropriate to post a light-hearted spoof on the 12 Days of Christmas. Here are some of the triggers you may experience and the “recovery way” to approach them.
Here goes. Hopefully you can relate.
Or, actually, hopefully you can’t. 😉
On the 12th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was that perfect picture my friend posted on Facebook of her decked-out home with perfectly placed decorations.
*SUGGESTION: No more checking social media this year. Comparison is the thief of joy!
On the 11th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was having to walk by Victoria’s Secret at least 5 times while picking up gifts at the mall.
*SUGGESTION: Yet another reason to embrace on-line shopping!
On the 10th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was the endless lists running through my brain of gifts yet to be bought, Christmas parties to plan, work responsibilities to finish up, and oh yeah, all the cooking, cleaning and laundry that doesn’t stop for the holidays.
*SUGGESTION: Step 11–I need you! The laundry will still be there when I get back from the gym.
On the 9th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
were the 42 text messages from my mother-in-law within a 30 minute space of time.
*SUGGESTION: I can set boundaries! I don’t have to take responsibility for what is not mine. Learning to be firm but kind can be tricky.
On the 8th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
were the hints that my in-laws were dropping about staying with us the whole week of Christmas.
*SUGGESTION: If I will feel resentment, I am accountable to set a boundary! I have learned that my ability to feel peace and serenity must come before meeting others’ demands for time or attention. I can be true to myself and communicate my needs.
On the 7th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was my spouse going into isolation-sullen-17-year-old mode whenever the in-laws are around.
*SUGGESTION: Detaching with love is an art form and I will practice! I will reject black and white thinking and embrace the truth that recovery is a process that happens one moment at a time, for both of us. I can detach, be patient, and give time for that process to take place.
On the 6th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
were the “not enoughs”…”not enough” gifts for the kids, “not enough” home-baked cookies, “not enough” perfection, “not enough” peace in our noisy home, “not enough” time to visit the homeless or take cookies to the nursing home, “not enough” cans for the food drive.
*SUGGESTION: I can reject the idea of “not enough.” Step 3 can help me make my offering, then sit back and know that my imperfections are all a part of His perfection.
On the 5th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was worrying if those extra Christmas treats were beginning to make me resemble the jolly old elf himself.
*SUGGESTION: That’s why they make stretchy pants! I can enjoy all the deliciousness of the season in moderation and practice gratitude for the gift of an amazing body that carries me through life. I can remind myself that sexiness has much more to do with my confidence and connection to my partner than it does with Christmas cookies.
On the 4th day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
were memories from past Christmases that bring pain and fear.
*SUGGESTION: I can breathe and recite mantras: “Today is Today.” As I learn from the past but live in the present, I can let go of the pain but keep the lessons. And I grow in my ability to trust that the God of my Understanding will always give me enough for Right Now.
On the 3rd day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was fearing all the triggers that will surely come from spending extended time with extended family.
*SUGGESTION: I can keep my sponsor on speed-dial! Surrendering On my knees, On the phone, In the box. I will strive to be humble, honest, and accountable through each sticky situation.
On the 2nd day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was my kids jumping off couches, constantly taking ornaments off the tree, and touching all the windows and furniture with candy-cane covered fingers.
*SUGGESTION: I can make amends. Even if I mess up and scream at my kids and make a mess of everything, there is no mess too big for the God of my Understanding to fix. I can be accountable. I can try again. I can ask for forgiveness. I can start again at Step 1-“My Life is Unmanageable.”
On the 1st day of Christmas, the thing that triggered me…
was NOTHING. Because by that first day of Christmas, I will have finally figured it out.
Well…that may be overly optimistic. Perhaps that’s just my Christmas wish.
We’d love to laugh with you over your Christmas triggers, and hear how living recovery can give you a more peaceful 12 days of Christmas this year through the chaos!