A few weeks ago I talked about five things to consider when looking for a sponsor. What’d you think? How do these concepts apply to your quest for a sponsor? For me, there are three initial questions I would ask a potential sponsee when he’s looking for a sponsor: 1. Have you been in meetings long enough…
Today, we’d like to address a question we received at the Q&A session at the last SAL Conference. A friend in recovery asks: “Is this program for those of us who have chosen divorce? I at times feel like I ‘failed’ as the spouse of an addict.” This is a great question, and a vulnerable…
Happy New Year to our Recovery Community! Today’s post is going to be about how recovery is changing my whole approach to New Year’s Resolutions. The old me loved New Year’s Resolutions. I would review the past year, start planning my next picture album, tabulate all the final numbers on our annual budget, and then…
We’ve received the question a number of times about how to find a sponsor and wanted to address it more formally in the men’s discussion today. This is a specific question we got recently in one of the comments about effective sponsorship: How does one go about finding sponsorship that works when the groups I have…
This discussion topic about the power of Grace is from one of our friends in recovery, Alicia. Thanks to Alicia for contributing to the women’s group discussion and for the time she put into collecting her thoughts about recovery. If you’re interested in sharing a discussion topic, please reach out to me here. Have you ever…
The title is a good question, and one that more and more men should probably ask themself if we really want to move into recovery and healing from sexual addiction. Are you wondering if your “little problem” with looking at pornography, masturbating, browsing the internet to “stumble upon” something inappropriate, scanning Facebook for hours and…
The 12 Triggers of Christmas With the stress of the holidays in full swing, we thought it would be appropriate to post a light-hearted spoof on the 12 Days of Christmas. Here are some of the triggers you may experience and the “recovery way” to approach them. Here goes. Hopefully you can relate. Or, actually,…
This post about un-surrendered emotions was submitted by one of our fellows in recovery. If you would like to submit your thoughts on recovery from addiction or questions you might have, submit them here. I can’t remember if this is something I made up or if I heard it elsewhere, but in the spirit of…
This week we received the following question from a friend in recovery: Has anyone else ever struggled with their faith? It seems like this is why I can’t get past step 2…How do I surrender when I don’t know if I trust God? Has anyone else felt this and if yes, what helped you? I’ve…
Last week we talked about seven of the most common denial statements an addict uses to justify, rationalize, minimize or hide his sexual addiction. The first seven we talked about were: 1. Comparing 2. Manipulating 3. Blaming 4. Minimizing 5. Rationalizing 6. Hopelessness 7. False Compliance Thanks for the comments and stories that related to these…