The title is a good question, and one that more and more men should probably ask themself if we really want to move into recovery and healing from sexual addiction.
Are you wondering if your “little problem” with looking at pornography, masturbating, browsing the internet to “stumble upon” something inappropriate, scanning Facebook for hours and hours at a time is just that – a little problem – or if you may actually be addicted?
Do you think you might be addicted but don’t want to honestly admit it?
Does saying, “I’m a sex addict,” or “I’m a sexaholic,” make you want to run, hide, or just get really angry?
I’ve been there. We’ve been there, and we know how you feel.
The White Book of SA helps answer the question about whether or not a person is a sex addict pretty clearly by asking 20 specific questions that, if answered honestly, make it very self-evident.
Check out the list of questions below.
How to Know if You’re a Sexaholic in 20 Questions
Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior?
That you’d be better off if you didn’t keep “giving in?”
That sex or stimuli are controlling you?
Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behavior?
Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can’t cope?
Do you feel guilt, remorse, or depression afterward?
Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?
Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?
Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?
Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?
Do you keep going from one relationship or lover to another?
Do you feel the right relationship would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?
Do you have a destructive need – a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?
Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?
Has your effectiveness or concentration decreases as sex has become more compulsive?
Do you lose time from work for it?
Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?
Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?
Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?
Have you ever been arrested for a se-related offense?
How’d you do?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, attending an SAL meeting would be a strong recommendation because, trust us, we didn’t want to admit we had the problem either or that it was “just a small bad habit.”