When I first came to SAL groups, I had been attending a different recovery group for a year. While I had never heard the term of surrender before, it was skittered throughout many of the comments of SAL women each week in their shares. Embarrassed that I was unfamiliar with something that seemed so fundamental,…
Today, we’d like to address a question we received at the Q&A session at the last SAL Conference. A friend in recovery asks: “Is this program for those of us who have chosen divorce? I at times feel like I ‘failed’ as the spouse of an addict.” This is a great question, and a vulnerable…
Happy New Year to our Recovery Community! Today’s post is going to be about how recovery is changing my whole approach to New Year’s Resolutions. The old me loved New Year’s Resolutions. I would review the past year, start planning my next picture album, tabulate all the final numbers on our annual budget, and then…
This discussion topic about the power of Grace is from one of our friends in recovery, Alicia. Thanks to Alicia for contributing to the women’s group discussion and for the time she put into collecting her thoughts about recovery. If you’re interested in sharing a discussion topic, please reach out to me here. Have you ever…
The 12 Triggers of Christmas With the stress of the holidays in full swing, we thought it would be appropriate to post a light-hearted spoof on the 12 Days of Christmas. Here are some of the triggers you may experience and the “recovery way” to approach them. Here goes. Hopefully you can relate. Or, actually,…
This week we received the following question from a friend in recovery: Has anyone else ever struggled with their faith? It seems like this is why I can’t get past step 2…How do I surrender when I don’t know if I trust God? Has anyone else felt this and if yes, what helped you? I’ve…
This discussion topic about Struggling with Body Image is from one of our friends in recovery, Alicia. Thanks to Alicia for contributing to the women’s group discussion and for the time she put into collecting her thoughts about recovery. If you’re interested in sharing a discussion topic, please reach out to me here. This isn’t…
When I first started coming to meetings and people would talk about being grateful for this trial in their lives, it made me puke in my mouth a little. I would feel anger flash over me before waves of shame. “I am not ever going to get there,” I thought. With Thanksgiving coming up this…
Many of you were able to attend the SAL Conference on November 11th. There was a Q&A session at the end of the evening, and many questions were left unanswered due to time. We will use some of these questions to start our discussion here. Someone asked: “What is the best thing a husband can…
There are hundreds of women across the world who are recovering from betrayal trauma with SAL. There are untold thousands more who still suffer in silence. This forum is a place where we would like you to feel that we understand as perhaps few can. This is a safe place for sharing, for asking questions,…