Living in recovery from sexual addiction. Just that phase can sound pretty vulnerable in addition to something many people probably don’t want to talk about, read about, or even deal with. Today’s post is a list of suggestions that comes directly from one addicts experience. You can read about it more on page 33 of…
Do people who look at pornography, even if it’s from time to time, really have a problem or even “a sexual addiction?” Is “lust addiction” a terrible, shaming label or is it something that needs to be talked about openly and honestly? What are your thoughts on these questions? Do you feel there’s a fear…
Thanks for all the questions that have come up about recovery and healing from sexual addiction. From physical touching boundaries to whether or not the 12 steps work, the questions have been so helpful and created a real conversation. Keep them coming! Today’s question comes from a brother who participates in the men’s online meetings.…
This is a guest post from one of the guys in an SAL men’s meeting. Thanks for sharing your travel tips to help you stay sexually sober. A couple times a year, I travel for work. This means staying in a hotel room by myself. Before I started my recovery, this was an opportunity to…
The last question submitted to the men’s discussion group, What are healthy physical touching boundaries? had a lot of discussion. Thanks everyone who participated and shared their experience, strength and hope with the group. Today’s question is a tough one – one that many of us may have had at some point in our process,…
Having questions, being curious, thinking – these are things I never really did very much when I was in full addict cycle. Maybe that’s not true. Maybe my questions were more self-centered or to prove that I was right and others were wrong. Either way, I’m learning that asking questions about recovery is always a…
Yesterday at Church, I heard a comment that was honestly quite triggering. But not in the “triggering” way you might think. By “triggering” I mean that it caused me to feel negative emotions: frustration, anger, fear, and even a lack of hope. One of the things that was said in the talk was that, “as…
Step 1 states: “We admitted we were powerless over lust – that our lives had become unmanageable.” Am I powerless over lust? What does “unmanageable” actually mean? How do I know if my life has become, or is, unmanageable? What if I’m sober – does that powerlessness still exist and is my life still unmanageable,…
Brené Brown defines connection as “the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” Does anything like that exist in the life of a sexaholic? This post won’t be long, it may not…
Last week we discussed a frequently asked question in addiction recovery groups: Am I an addict for the rest of my life? It was an interesting discussion and one that caused me to think a lot about my own recovery and what I’m doing (or need to do) in order to be “in recovery” as…