Last January, SA Lifeline hosted a Parent Panel at Thanksgiving Point for anyone interested in gaining more information about dealing with the problem of sexual addiction with their children. Among the presenters there, we were privileged to hear from Vauna Davis, founder and executive director of Reach 10, an organization dedicated to helping young people navigate the challenges associated with pornography in their personal lives and relationships. Vauna was also formerly the executive director of UCAP (Utah Coalition Against Pornography), which hosts the world’s largest Conference dedicated to educating the public on the many debilitating effects of pornography. Vauna also serves on the SA Lifeline Advisory Board.
Vauna reminded us that when we look at the big picture, family culture and home environment are major influences on young people’s ability to avoid or overcome any challenge they face – including pornography use or addiction.
The beauty and effectiveness of working 12 Steps comes from the fact that it can help us stop trying to fix our children, and start working to be the kind of person who could inspire them to fix themselves.
Vauna’s comments included the following mantras.
7 Positive Affirmations That Will Help You Create an Emotionally Healthy Family Environment
What kind of person am I working to be? Stating these goals as positive affirmations helps us see ourselves as capable and powerful.
· I am generally happy, grateful, and enjoying my life.
· I admit my challenges and problems in life and share how I am working to overcome them.
· I deal with stress in healthy ways.
· I openly identify my emotions and model how to manage them (emotion coaching).
· I share how God is blessing my life in sincere and non-threatening ways.
· Every time my children are around me they feel better about themselves.
· My family knows I love them no matter what.
Thanks to Vauna for her expertise and insights on this important topic. For more on her work with Reach 10, we invite you to check out reach10.org.
If you are a mother who has a child struggling with pornography use, we want you to know that there is a special Mother’s Meeting the last Tuesday of each month at 9pm. This meeting takes place on Zoom and you can request an invite here.