Valentine’s Day can be a very difficult day for those of us who have experienced the lies, deceit and betrayal of living with or having lived with a pornography or sexual addict. All the red hearts and the mushy sentiments can send us into feelings of sadness, fear, inadequacy or even anger. But there is…
DetailsWhy do women have bookclubs? Do they really even read the book or is it just a reason they create to get together and talk, gossip, or possibly emotionally connect? Personally, I’ve been kind of jealous when my wife goes to bookclubs. It seems to me to be a great way to meet new friends…
DetailsSome of you may have heard – this week SAL meetings will officially begin using a new script. Thanks to those who contributed to the feedback of the updated script and shared their experiences. While the changes are minor, sometimes any change can be difficult for addicts. As this minor change is taking place, I thought…
DetailsWhen I first came to SAL groups, I had been attending a different recovery group for a year. While I had never heard the term of surrender before, it was skittered throughout many of the comments of SAL women each week in their shares. Embarrassed that I was unfamiliar with something that seemed so fundamental,…
DetailsA few weeks ago I talked about five things to consider when looking for a sponsor. What’d you think? How do these concepts apply to your quest for a sponsor? For me, there are three initial questions I would ask a potential sponsee when he’s looking for a sponsor: 1. Have you been in meetings long enough…
DetailsToday, we’d like to address a question we received at the Q&A session at the last SAL Conference. A friend in recovery asks: “Is this program for those of us who have chosen divorce? I at times feel like I ‘failed’ as the spouse of an addict.” This is a great question, and a vulnerable…
DetailsHappy New Year to our Recovery Community! Today’s post is going to be about how recovery is changing my whole approach to New Year’s Resolutions. The old me loved New Year’s Resolutions. I would review the past year, start planning my next picture album, tabulate all the final numbers on our annual budget, and then…
DetailsWe’ve received the question a number of times about how to find a sponsor and wanted to address it more formally in the men’s discussion today. This is a specific question we got recently in one of the comments about effective sponsorship: How does one go about finding sponsorship that works when the groups I have…
DetailsThis discussion topic about the power of Grace is from one of our friends in recovery, Alicia. Thanks to Alicia for contributing to the women’s group discussion and for the time she put into collecting her thoughts about recovery. If you’re interested in sharing a discussion topic, please reach out to me here. Have you ever…
DetailsThe title is a good question, and one that more and more men should probably ask themself if we really want to move into recovery and healing from sexual addiction. Are you wondering if your “little problem” with looking at pornography, masturbating, browsing the internet to “stumble upon” something inappropriate, scanning Facebook for hours and…
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