What I Learned from Setting Boundaries

Thanks to Alicia for this beautiful post on what she has learned from setting boundaries. For more information on setting boundaries, we encourage you to read What Can I Do About Me? by Rhyll Croshaw and refer specifically to the chapter on p 57 entitled “Boundaries: The Most Loving Thing I Can Do.” When I…

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Travel Tips to Help You Stay Sexually Sober

This is a guest post from one of the guys in an SAL men’s meeting. Thanks for sharing your travel tips to help you stay sexually sober. A couple times a year, I travel for work. This means staying in a hotel room by myself. Before I started my recovery, this was an opportunity to…

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Q&A with Rhyll Croshaw: A Pioneer Perspective on Trauma

Once a month on our blog, we feature Q&A’s with Rhyll Croshaw. This content was originally found on our sister site, rhyllrecovery.com, but will now be a part of our Women’s Discussion here. Thanks to Rhyll for her insights and willingness to share her strength, hope, and experience with all of us.  Please let us…

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Question: Are the 12 Steps Really for Me?

The last question submitted to the men’s discussion group, What are healthy physical touching boundaries? had a lot of discussion. Thanks everyone who participated and shared their experience, strength and hope with the group. Today’s question is a tough one – one that many of us may have had at some point in our process,…

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What are healthy physical touch boundaries?

This week, we’d like to share a post from the Men’s Discussion Board that has received multiple comments and inspired some great discussion: For me and my marriage, I feel like after 3 and a half years of recovery, I am just barely getting to a place where I can really start at Step 1…

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Why should I go to the SA Lifeline Conference on October 14th?

We are excited to remind you of an upcoming annual event: the SA Lifeline Conference: Recovering Individuals, Healing Families. If you are undecided on whether or not you should clear your calendar and get yourself there, here are my: Top 3 Reasons to go to the SA Lifeline Conference on October 14th 1. You will…

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Question: What are Healthy Physical Touching Boundaries?

Having questions, being curious, thinking – these are things I never really did very much when I was in full addict cycle. Maybe that’s not true. Maybe my questions were more self-centered or to prove that I was right and others were wrong. Either way, I’m learning that asking questions about recovery is always a…

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Do or Do Not, There is No Try in Addiction Recovery

Yesterday at Church, I heard a comment that was honestly quite triggering. But not in the “triggering” way you might think. By “triggering” I mean that it caused me to feel negative emotions: frustration, anger, fear, and even a lack of hope. One of the things that was said in the talk was that, “as…

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Gifts of Working the 12 Steps

When you first came to 12 Step, what were you hoping to get out of the program? A sober husband? Vindication? A quick fix? Validation that you were a victim? A magic tool-kit to eradicate addiction from your loved one? When I first came to Twelve Step, I think all I wanted was to find…

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