7 Common Denial Statements of an Addict – Part 1

Denial. What does that have to do with sexual addiction? When you think about denial statements, what comes to mind? One important part of the recovery journey is working with a qualified therapist – someone who has been trained in dealing with sexual addiction and betrayal trauma. The following denial statements were compiled by Utah…

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Letting Go of What is No Longer Mine to Carry

This Thanksgiving, I hope you can feel gratitude for the Gifts of the Program working in your life: “We will know peace of mind and a stronger connection with God, and our hope will turn to faith that He is really working in our lives, as we explore the wonders of serenity, dignity, and emotional…

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Gratitude in Recovery

When I first started coming to meetings and people would talk about being grateful for this trial in their lives, it made me puke in my mouth a little.  I would feel anger flash over me before waves of shame. “I am not ever going to get there,” I thought. With Thanksgiving coming up this…

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What Does Effective Sponsorship Really Look Like?

Sponsorship in addiction – what does that really mean and how does it work? This “must” from The Big Book about sponsorship and recovery is something to consider: To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends-this…

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Trust Those Who Want the Real You

For those who live locally, we wanted to announce that Steven & Rhyll will be speaking at the ARP Fireside this Sunday, November 20th at 6 pm in Sandy, UT.  The meeting will be held at the Stake Center Building at 7155 S 540 E. To watch an insightful message about creating a new construct for your…

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Rebuilding Trust in Marriage

Many of you were able to attend the SAL Conference on November 11th. There was a Q&A session at the end of the evening, and many questions were left unanswered due to time. We will use some of these questions to start our discussion here. Someone asked: “What is the best thing a husband can…

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How do you work the steps of recovery?

From one of our fellows: “One of the most common questions I hear is how to work the steps of recovery…” In the White Book of SA, it says: “No matter how well they are explained, understood, or believed, however, the Steps mean nothing unless they are actually worked out in our thinking and living. The Steps…

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Welcome to the Men’s Online Discussion

Hey guys! Welcome to the new online discussion group for men working on recovery from sexual addiction. We are excited to open up the conversation about sobriety and recovery. More information will be coming as we roll this out. We would love to have suggestions in the comments section below about what questions you have,…

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Welcome to the Women’s Online Discussion Group

There are hundreds of women across the world who are recovering from betrayal trauma with SAL. There are untold thousands more who still suffer in silence.  This forum is a place where we would like you to feel that we understand as perhaps few can.  This is a safe place for sharing, for asking questions,…

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